Your Common Sense Guide to a First Date
May 11, 2009
Category: Advice
We wish we didn’t have to write this post. You would think that these would be common sense rules that everyone would mostly follow. But no…we’ve been on too many first dates to know that there are some very clueless people out there. Maybe they weren’t trained correctly growing up or have never received any constructive criticism, but based on our experience, a lot of you have to start over with the basics.
The following rules apply to typical social norms of men planning out a traditional first date where the two people are actually looking for something serious (eventually) vs. just going out to hook up as the only intention. There’s a whole other list of rules for that, which we’d be glad to share as well (think plenty of alcohol and being overly flirtatious). Not all of these apply all of the time, but for the most part, try to stick to these basic principles. Read more
Advice: Go-To Date Spots For Guys
Adam G. – Male, 28. New York, NY. Single.
Every guy should have several go-to date spots to take women to. These places should be comfortable and reliable. Depending on where you live, you may have a larger or smaller selection, but always having a few in your back pocket will come in handy when planning a night out or in a spontaneous situation. As a resident of New York City, I feel that I need to have a few go-to spots in almost every neighborhood of Manhattan. This ends up being a pretty long list due to the size of the island, but it’s well worth knowing what’s close by at a minute’s notice.
I know we don’t like to admit it, but men have many things to worry about when taking out women. Besides the general things like presenting yourself well or having topics to discuss, we have to think about where to go, what to do, what will she like, will we have to wait, where can we go if the wait is too long, where should we go afterwards, etc. The less a guy has to worry about these things, the more he can focus on himself and the conversation between him and his date. Read more
