In The Early Stages Of Dating, How Should You End It?

We’ve all been in this situation before: We’ve gone out with someone a handful of times (i.e. let’s say 2-4), but we’re just really not that interested. What is the correct protocol for ending it? What is the best way to limit any future awkwardity? Do you just stop calling or returning their texts? Do you write them an email or leave a voicemail explaining that you’re not that into it? We asked four people about their prior experiences with this type of situation and what they think someone should do to end it.

Samantha J. – Female, 25. Houston, TX. Single.
If it’s early on and I’ve only hung out with the guy a few times, then I’d probably just take the easy way out and not call him back if he called or not return his texts or emails (whatever way he’s trying to contact me). Eventually I would hope he gets the point. I never understand people needing to tell the other person they don’t think it’s going to work out so early on. Save yourself the confrontation, you’re not that close yet so why bother making a big deal out of it? Just ignore and move on. Read more

Who Should Pay On The First Few Dates?

The question of who should pay on a first, second or third date has been debated since the beginning of time. Even with the transformation of social norms to a more liberal state over the last few decades, the rule that the male should pay on the first few dates (or at the very least, the first date) has remained constant in most early relationships. Due to this philosophy, it is the male’s responsibility to be a gentleman and take care of the entire night, including making the plans and paying for them. But what if the girl asks the guy out? What then? Four people with very different perspectives weigh in on this topic and share how they really feel.

Dave R. – Male, 32. Washington D.C. In A Relationship.
Back when I was single, I certainly fell into line with the typical social norms of being a true “gentleman.” I would say for at least the first three dates (drinks, dinner, etc.), I’d insist on paying for everything and planning out the whole date. Most of the women seemed to appreciate that, so that was my usual method. Every once in awhile, I’d allow them to pay for a cab or a drink somewhere, but in general, I wanted to take care of them. Even if the woman asked me out, I’d still want to pay for her. I just believe that’s the way it should be. I won over my girlfriend that way. Read more